Has is REALLY been 17 days since my last post? Please forgive me <3
I have since read, all 4 of Chelsea Handler's books, Betty White's book, Tina Fey's 'Bossypants' and Sheet Music. Sheet Music is a Christian couple's guide to sex and the biggest piece of shit I have ever read. My biggest regret is paying for the nook book. This book was recommended to us at the couple's retreat we went to in March, which we both enjoyed and took a lot from.
It is SERIOUSLY the worst ever advice for married couples and virgins. It is an old perv's legitimate excuse to talk about sex and I kid you not, the term headlights is in this book several times. I'd rather take sex advice from Doctor Phil. It's Victorian themes and beliefs have you thinking you needs to have dinner, a blowjob and a scotch waiting for him when he comes home. It suggests you HAVE to have sex. It doesn't matter if you're tired from work, from taking care of the kids or if you're sick. Your husband has waited for you SO long, and you made a commitment so now you need to reward with him sex, all the time. Um no. Talk about objectification.
Needless to say, I DON'T like it. I'm actually insulted that someone thought this was a helpful book.
Anyways, on to the whole reason I'm posting today, is because I'm currently reading '5 conversations you MUST have with your daughter' by Vicki Courtney. It is scripture based (meaning there are bible quotes throughout) but I almost have to INSIST that you buy this book if you have a daughter. There is SO much important information in this book, that even if you're not a Christian, you can overlook the bible verses to get to the pertinent information. It deals with friends, how to teach them to deal with peer pressure, body image and how to teach them about the lies and tricks the media uses to make women look fake and unrealistic.
These are things that moms of girls should know and know how to talk about with their daughters. I'm only 26 and I know that my daughter is growing up and will continue to do so in a VERY different time than I did.
I'm only about halfway through, but I am loving the book. I have my nook and I have this on there and I am honestly contemplating buying a hard copy as well. It would be one of those dog eared, well worn books, as I continually read and reread and highlight for future use. There are also sections as you go along as to how to have these conversations at different ages, even 5 and under, which for me, is so useful. They tell you how you can relate these conversations to your girls at different stages.
As I was reading last night, I thought about all the things you need to teach your daughter and how sometimes at a certain age they kind of tune you out, which when they're not talking to you is probably when they need your words the most. So I've decided to do a 365 project. Not in the traditional sense, with photos, but with letters.
365 letters to my daughter. All to be done journal style and for our eyes only. I don't know if I'll give it to her when she's 13 or 16. I don't know if it will be given to her the night of a birthday, or after a heated argument. All I know is I will have it for her and I imagine even after I reach my goal, when a topic or issue comes up I will add to it. 365 letter to my daughter who when she doesn't want to talk to me, or is mad at me, will still have my words when she needs them most. Some might a sentence, some might be several pages. Telling her what she needs to know about everything from friends, to her body and and god. Some might be bible verses, things that have happened to me or just wishes I have for her.
I have to say I am really excited to do this :)